Tuesday, 13 November 2012

Three little words

A while ago, a colleague met me in town for a working lunch. As we walked back to her car, we continued chatting in the street as people hurried by on a cold day. Suddenly, mid-conversation, my colleague called out to one particular woman. "Excuse me ..." The woman turned around and then my colleague uttered three little words: "You look gorgeous."  And she did. Naturally, being from Wellington, she was dressed all in black but she did look stunning. I hadn't noticed her at all but my colleague, herself quite a stylish dresser, did and took her observation one step further.

The woman seemed really surprised. "Thank you!" she gasped, clearly shocked and thrilled all at once. She walked away with a straighter stride and a huge grin - and all it took was three little words from a stranger.

My colleague also noticed the look on my face. "Well, she did look gorgeous," she repeated to me. I agreed but realised that I didn't think I'd ever performed the simple act that clearly made this woman's day: complimenting a stranger. It seems so easy, so why don't we do it more often? Is it because we get so caught up in our own worlds that we don't notice those around us? Or do you think it could be because we kiwis tend to stick to ourselves and our inherent reservedness stops us from vocalising some of the things we should?

3 comments:

~JarieLyn~ said...

I always compliment strangers, but only if I sincerely mean it. I have a tendency to compliment others on their hair style or their make-up and their outfit.

LatteJunkie said...

I try to do that too. Especially if the person is plus size - cos I know how hard it is to find pretty clothes that suit a bigger frame... But I also compliment people on their children's behaviour...

It's free and easy and keeps me in the moment.

Nicole Mccarthy said...

I like this :)